One of the things that hurts my heart is seeing people with so much lost-potential – people who know they want more out of their life, but they don’t know where to start. So, they remain stuck on the hamster wheel. Overwhelmed. Off track. Shining a little less bright than they used to, or want to. It happens to pretty much all of us at one stage or another. After all, we can’t shine brightly ALL the time.
But the thing is, life is a journey. If you are unhappy with your life, it may be because you are not living the vision you have in your head of how you believe your life should be.
Maybe it’s because you’re going through a change. Maybe it’s because you desire some change. Maybe it’s because life has just gone too fast and you’re not feeling like you’re on the right path.
If you’re not “feeling it”, what can you do about it? Complain? Mope? Eat ALL the chocolate? Sure, but, at the end of the day, your happiness and the joy in your life falls on one thing. Not complaints. Or chocolate. It falls on you.
Sure, there are always going to be people, situations and things that challenge our lives. We can’t be happy all the time, we know that. But I think to be happy within ourselves there are three things we need to nail.
- You are happy with who you are.
- You are using your talents.
- You are living the vision you see for your life.
Achieve all three then, well, that ooey gooey happiness may just ooze out of you.
We may not be able to nail these three things at once all the time. If we could, we’d all be happier than a kid eating whatever they want from a dessert buffet. But, hey, we can try.
If you aren’t happy with who you are, it’s time to do something about it. No ifs, ands or buts. If you can’t love yourself, it’s really hard for others to love you too.
Your talents? We all have them. Most of you know that I am a singer and if I am not doing gigs, I get mopey. I may not get time to do gigs often, which means lots of singing in the shower! You may be really artistic, an amazing organiser, or incredible cook. Try and ensure you are using your talents as often as you can. They make you feel great.
And your vision for your life? This is a tricky one. What I find is, with most people, this vision is very blurred. It’s unclear, it’s missing or it’s in our heads and we can’t seem to make sense of it.
I know what you are thinking. “Bree, I’m too busy surviving parenthood right now. It’s Groundhog Day and I can’t see that changing til 2030”. I hear you. I get it.
But do yourself a favour, put pen to paper and start thinking about these three questions. It will really take a load off your brain in the long run. Sure, there is more to happiness than the above, such as being grateful for what we have and who we are. However the three things above is what I believe gets most people unstuck, myself included.
I encourage you to take some time and start thinking about your vision for your life and putting it on paper. Statistics show that out of 100 people, 80 of them won’t have any goals, 16 have goals but don’t write them down, three have goals but don’t review them and only one out of 100 will write down their goals and review them regularly. Be that one.