Today in the lead up to Fathers Day, I want to talk about the male species. I could write about how gross, smelly, inappropriate, annoying and high maintenance most of them are, but I’m not. I could write about how amazing, fun, caring, energetic, and protective they are of their family, but I’m not going to write about that either.
The thing is, I am actually really worried about the state of our boys and our men.
Let me start by saying I have a soft spot for those who have XY chromosomes. I always have, and I always will. I’ve always had a strong bond with the men in my life, my dad, my big brother, and as a Tomboy, I often had male friends over girlfriends. Then I became a mother to two gregarious boys, I also have two dogs and two guinea pig fur babies, and you guessed it, they are all boys too. So, I guess you’d say I’ve had a fair amount of experience with boys.
For some time, I’ve been watching the rise of women, and I think it’s wonderful how much women have evolved over the years, that we are being celebrated more and there is more awareness about gender equality. But I am worried that it has swung too far and that it is impacting our male counterparts. I feel we celebrate women so much now, and it is almost frowned upon to celebrate a male. As an example, to show the difference, just look around at the number of Father’s Day promotions you’ve seen this month and last. Not many in comparison to Mother’s Day, right? I think that is really sad!
Some of you are probably going to knock me down for my thoughts here, but I am starting to worry that women are becoming completely self efficient (which is great) but men don’t know their place anymore. I think a lot of men are really lost. Women are becoming more and more like men with more masculine energy, and men are becoming more and more like women with more feminine energy. I believe this is causing major problems in our family units, thus in society.
I was at a Tony Robbins event the other month, and I learnt a lot about masculine and feminine energy. Do me a favour, do some googling on it, I’m no expert! But one of my biggest realisations was that as a mother of boys, I have to ensure that, as a strong independent woman myself who has a lot of masculine energy, I don’t emasculate my boys, thus making them behave with more feminine energy. I need to be in more feminine energy around them and encourage them to be in their masculine energy. This has been hard for me, but I know in my heart it’s what needs to be done, even our schooling system is more about being in feminine energy.
In my opinion, we need to have a really long hard look at how we treat men, especially fathers in our society. A lot of them are hurting, a lot of them are lost, a lot of them feel very alone. We need to help them be the men our country needs in the twenty first century. This first starts with us acknowledging there is a problem. So look around and see if you agree with me, and from awareness, we can start to work out solutions.