Every parent and every child in their relationship is different, so it’s always best when parents use their own common sense as they know their kids best. But I definitely recommend having lots of small, non-invasive, non-confrontational conversations that flow naturally, rather than some great big ‘now, now let’s have a sit down and talk about the birds and the bees.’
There’s so much to cover with sex and sexuality, from puberty and body changes, to sexual health, STI’s and safer sex and how it all works – including conception. But it’s not just about biology, it’s also a bunch of conversations about relationships, how you communicate with people and consent.
- Have lots and lots of little conversations and research reputable advice to share, even before the conversations start – so you are ready.
- Create a safe space: don’t be judgmental no matter how confronting or scary questions can be. The best thing for them to be able to do, is to be able to come to their parents and feel safe in having those conversations with you.
- Regardless of how great a parent / child relationship might be, there is always going to be stuff that a teenager wants to keep to themselves. Find your teen a ‘sex fairy godmother’- a trusted relative that they are really comfortable with, and reassuring your child it’s okay to talk to them, if they feel they can’t come to you.
For more on the topic tune into Episode 31 of the PakMag Parent’s Podcast with special guest Row Murray.
You can also buy a copy of Row’s book – For Foxes Sake
for help with ‘those conversations’ with your child.