The life of a stay at home mum is busy, busy, busy. Getting the kids up, dressed, bathed, fed, and keeping them happy is a full-time job. It’s difficult to understand unless you’ve experienced it yourself; you’ll know just how draining it can be! As much as we love our kids, having them follow you around 24/7 can get exhausting.
You probably catch yourself thinking, “how could I POSSIBLY make time for myself?” Here are some tips for you:
1. Schedule your me-time.
Finding some time for yourself is difficult with kids running around the house and grabbing onto you, but when your kids are occupied, you’ll find it’s easier. Set some time aside for yourself when the kids are quietly playing, watching TV or sleeping. Those dishes can wait; promise.
2. Teach your kids independent play.
Just because you’re at home doesn’t mean you need to be the number 1 source of entertainment for your kids. Teach your kids how to play independently and have fun without you needing to be present, so you can take some time for yourself.
3. Embrace the chaos.
No one is going to think you’re a bad parent because there’s some toys scattered on the floor or because dinner isn’t on the table as soon as your spouse gets home. No family is perfect, and it’s okay to embrace this. After all, how can you expect to be the perfect mum when you feel stressed out?
4. Organise Playdates.
This will allow your kids to socialise with other kids and you can have a semi-adult conversation with like minded mums who are probably feeling the same frustrations you are.
5. Get Dad to take over for a while.
If possible, get your husband to look after the kids for a little while so you can shower, go down to the supermarket, cook dinner, or just sit on the bed and read a book for a little while.
One of the most important things to remember is that you shouldn’t feel guilty to ask for help or wanting some alone time; it’s only normal to want some time for yourself. Hopefully, these tips will help make that happen for you, even if it’s just 15 minutes here and there to take a shower or drink a coffee.