Parents influence their children. You are role models who have the most impact on your child. What kind of a role model are you? Are you an inspiration or are you contributing to your child’s mental health by displaying negative thoughts, feelings and emotions. You need to be in the right mental health space to be able to empower your children to be the best version of themselves.
The following seven tips will give you the confidence you need to be there to guide and protect your child as they are growing physically, mentally and emotionally.
1. TAKE CONTROL.
Are you in control of your life or are you just hanging in there and responding to everyday issues that arise? Put a plan in place for you and your family. Discuss with your children ways that they can help out so that you are not consumed with overwhelm. Make a few necessary changes to have your house organised. Be proactive rather than reactive.
2. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF.
Are you looking after your own health? Eating the right food, drinking enough water, limiting stimulants and depressants (where possible)? Are you getting enough rest? Can you manage to include exercise into your daily or weekly routines? Take some time to recuperate and readjust by taking some parent time in form of meditation, massage or yoga class!
3. BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL.
Your children look up to you. They learn from the experiences they have with you. What beliefs and morals are you demonstrating to your children? Are the topics you discuss in front of your children appropriate? Are you teaching respect for yourself or others by what you are saying and doing?
4. ENJOY LIFE.
All members of the family want to have fun and so do you! The best times they have are when they are laughing and enjoying your company. Laugh at yourself and do stupid things to make your children laugh! These times they will remember for a long time. How do you want your children to remember you when you are gone?
5. PROJECT POSITIVE VIBES.
Resilience is a word bandied around at the moment. However, you want to make your children feel safe and secure by projecting positive and optimistic perspectives. Are you projecting your own fears or anxieties on to your children? Stay calm and try not to be reactive. Even in difficult times, children want to know that there is a future full of possibilities to explore. What’s a fun activity you can plan and enjoy with your children in the near future?
If you are trying to do everything yourself, you will become tired and exhausted which will de-value the time you spend with your children. Delegate tasks and responsibilities so that you will have time to spend pampering yourself as well as having quality time to spend with your children.
7. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.
If most of your time is spent arguing and yelling with your children, arrange your time so that each child has their own time with you every day. In the time that you spend with each child you will get to know them better by listening and understanding their world. It will show them that you love them and you will feel good being part of their world.
Are you being the role model you want to be for your children? Are you looking after yourself so that you can spend quality time with each child?